Recently, my husband and I celebrated our 25th anniversary with not one, not two, but 10 special events. That’s right. What started out as a two week vacation turned into months of celebrating everywhere we went. Including: renewing our vows and partying with dear friends, going out for multiple anniversary dinners and being showered with many free desserts and unlimited well wishes.
Why did we go overboard? Because being married for 25 years is a huge accomplishment and our love deserves celebrating!
We’ve learned a few things about relationships along the way. Every relationship goes through seasons and once in a while, it needs a spark to re-ignite it. If you’ve been in a relationship for a while, you may need to jump start things.
Here is a recipe to add a SPARK of love to your relationship.
S – Spiritually Connect!
Your love story is a grand adventure and God is in it with you. God is the glue and the ultimate power source to your love. Pray together and watch God bind you closer together than ever. Remember – a strand of 3 cords can’t be easily broken.
To Do: Ask your partner: “What is 1 thing I can do this week to be a better partner?” Then listen. Sit quietly and really hear what the other person said, without getting defensive. Then, as long as it’s not offensive to you, when you’re ready to step out of your comfort zone, try it.
P – Physical Touch.
Hug, kiss, hold hands and be intimate. All of these physical touches are critical to keeping you close to each other.
Research shows that hugging (and also laughter) is extremely effective at healing sickness, disease, loneliness, depression, anxiety and stress. Research shows a proper heart to heart hug builds trust and a sense of safety.
Virginia Satir, a respected family therapist, “We need four hugs a day for survival. We need eight hugs a day for maintenance. We need twelve hugs a day for growth.”
To Do: Ask: How many hugs and touches would you like each day?
A – Actively Grow
Spend time together & apart doing NEW things. Add novelty to your relationship.
Engage in New experiences. Try new things together. Whether it’s traveling to a new country, taking a cooking class, or writing YOUR love story, this too will help keep your relationship alive. Engaging in new experiences will allow both you and your partner to learn new things about yourselves and each other. It also provides room for excitement, and to support each other.
Do the Original Love Box tradition. Write each other love notes and read them aloud to each other. Try writing your love story in the Original Love Box book. Keep your love alive by reliving wonderful past experiences and creating new ones.
You can keep your love story alive for future generations as well by writing it in the Original Love Box book. It’s such a treasured keepsake.
R- Respectfully Communicate.
Respectfully express your love and appreciation for each other. As often as you can. Top regrets people have at the end of their life are that they didn’t do what they really wanted. #3 regret is “I didn’t express my true feelings.”
It’s vital for us to express ourselves. The good and the bad. Make sure you pour loving words into your partner and your kids.
What’s a good ‘Love Talk ratio’?
Say 5 ‘Love Talks’ to 1 correction. Pump 5 positive, uplifting and loving statements to 1 negative one. Your tone of voice speaks volumes.
Start the Original Love Box tradition and keep pumping love notes into your partners life. Write love notes to each other!
If you hurt the other, be sure to extend grace and forgiveness. Do the 3-H Forgiveness method. Kathrine Lee, creator of the Ultimate Source recommends forgiving with your head, heart and hands. Forgive logically by thinking about making the conscious choice to forgive. Then search your heart and spiritually forgive them. Then extend your hand to forgive them and ultimately, use your hands to help another person.
K – Keep On Keeping On!
Different ages and stages bring different changes. Each season has challenges and opportunities for growth. Keep working on your relationship. Remember; the only way you can lose is if you give up.
Relationships have ups and downs. Keep the faith and keep believing in the other person. Stay hopeful and add a spark to have a happier and more rewarding relationship.
Wish you a love to last a lifetime. You can add a fresh spark to your love at any time and enjoy a long and loving relationship.
- Communicate daily
- Date weekly
- Adventure monthly
- What’s 1 thing I can do to be a better partner this week?
- What can I do that’s novel and different?
What’s the 1st word that pops into your head about the holiday season?
For many years mine was, overwhelmed. Followed closely by over burdened and let’s not forget overweight. You get the picture, I was in way OVER my head. Then I hit the “That’s it! button and decided, “This holiday’s going to be different.”
It was time to change and to enlist help. My hubby and I looked around and realized we had a whole team of helpers at our disposal, they were just disguised as family members. So, we decided to organize and mobilize ourself and the troops.
1. Have a Plan. Make a plan for your time, your health and your Spiritual growth.
Use the Holiday Help! checklist and stay organized. The Holiday Help! checklist includes all the activities that make the holidays complete and you can tweak it for your family. You post it on the fridge and let each family member or holiday guest “sign up” to help. Then, assign a completion date for every activity on your calendar and who is responsible for its’ completion. The checklist keeps you organized and holds everyone accountable.
If no one signs up for an activity, it doesn’t get done. Oh what fun, it is to get the whole family helping along, Hey! When you’re organized and everyone’s working together cheerfully, everything is better.
If you want the checklist, just e-mail me: email@example.com
2. Be still. Pray, meditate and open your heart to the Spirit. Focus on the true reason for the season. Read the Bible, devotional or other spiritual books to slow you down and grow in faith.
3. Simplify the Season. Ask; Why are we doing what you’re doing? Ask your family, “What are the most meaningful traditions? Do those & ditch the rest.
4. Control gift giving. Ask the kids TODAY: “What gifts do you remember from last year?” Then brace yourself. If your loved ones can’t remember, simplify to just 3 gifts. After all, 3 gifts were good enough for Jesus.
5. Focus on Relationships. Focus on growing in love instead of more stuff. Simplify and include others in the Season. Let go of wanting things to be perfect. Life is not a Hallmark show. They’re not going to be. Strive for ‘good enough’ instead. You really do NOT have to do it all alone. When we let others help we teach our kids and hubby how to love by serving.
6. Be grateful and Focus on the Moments – See all the joy in faces of the people you love and the moments.
7. Give the gift of Love. Grow closer together with family and friends as you share your love with the The Christmas Love Box tradition. If you’re not Christian, you can do the Original Love Box tradition. Giving the gift of love is the greatest gift you can give your family and the world.
You can get yours online at: www.originallovebox.com
Wishing you and your heart joyful moments amidst controlled chaos. Keep the faith and by all means, just keep breathing – deeply.
Breathe in: I am at peace.
Breathe out: I share love.
Merry Christmas friend!
The Love Box Mission: To be ‘Love Agents’ for the Military Family by providing Original Love Notes® and/or The Original Love Boxes®.
Let’s give every soldier as many love notes as possible and give their families a Love Box too. The Love Box for Military Families includes the Original Love Box® plus unique patriotic items especially designed for military families.
Benefits: The Original Love Box® for Military Families is a powerful tool that will benefit soldiers and their families every day and keep them close, especially during periods of deployment when military marriages are the most stressed.
- Organize a Love Note Campaign to send military soldiers and their families more love now. Suggested donation: $1 per love note.
- Sponsor an Original Love Box® for one or more Military Families – $39.99 each.
- Provide extra Original Love Note Packs – 20 love notes – $9.95.
- Donate seed money toward the creation of ‘The Military Love Box’.
- ______________________ Your idea here! Would love to hear it.
Who’s Involved: Christine Martinello, Inventor of the Original Love Box® & Jacqueline Arnold, Creator of Sweet Life USA (www.sweetlifeusa.com) are joining forces to send our military families more love.
The Braselton Rotary is hosting these keynote speakers at the Nov. 9th meeting @7:30 a.m.
Christine Martinello, P. O. Box 851, Braselton, GA 30517
Email: firstname.lastname@example.org PH: 678-960-www.originallovebox.com
Let us know if you want to join forces and send love to Military families. Because of you, we can spread more love! You help educate & encourage military families so they can build foundations of love. Thanks!
Valentine’s Day is coming. This is your chance to grow in love or watch it wilt in three days. We’re committed to helping your love blossom. Here are some do’s and don’ts.
5 Worst Gifts
1. Nothing. We know you’re busy and sometimes forgetful. If you truly value love, you need to put some time and effort into it.
2. Appliances. Nothing kills romance faster than a new toaster. Yes, we may very well need a new one, but not as a Valentine’s day gift.
3. Grocery store flowers. Don’t rush in after work, with a token gift. If it’s going to wilt in 3 days, think again.
4. Dinner at a fast-food restaurant. She doesn’t care how busy you both are. If you can’t make it on V-Day, plan for a lovely dinner on another day.
5. Sporting event tickets. I can hear you guys . . . “But she loves sports.” Make 100 % sure she really loves sports & isn’t just trying to make you think she does.
5 BEST Heartfelt Valentine’s Gifts
1. Original Love Box filled with hand written love notes and her favorite sweet treats. When you read her the notes aloud, surrounded by candlelight, her heart will melt.
2. Share a picnic and feed each other your favorite foods & drinks. If the weather is bad outside, set it up in a quiet part of you home. A the very least shut off the TV & put on love songs. Add a dance under the moonlight to romantic music.
3. Engraved jewelry that has a special message or date on it.
4. If you’re going to get chocolates, make sure they’re her favorites and that there are plenty.
5. Write a poem or song, & sing it to her – just for her ears only.
Hope you feel surrounded by LOVE!
Ok ladies, feel free to send this to a guy you know.
So many of us want to do something but aren’t sure how to help. Here’s one way to send comfort and healing. Let’s surround Orlando with love!
The Original Love Box team has decided to take action and send heartfelt ‘Love Notes’ to those impacted.
Christine Martinello, creator of the Original Love Box and the ‘Love Agents’ are on a mission to surround Orlando with love. Love notes have flooded in from all over the United States and Prince of Peace Catholic Church has joined the effort. Christine and her ‘Love Agents’ will send the notes on Monday, June 20th.
If friends, companies, churches, or community members want to write love notes, they can send them to Christine Martinello.
Love has the power to unite us all, whether we’re living near or far. Can we, as a nation, band together to show our love for our neighbors?
You can send Love Notes to: email@example.com or call: 678-960-4123